Last week we made a large purchase: a new piano.  It’s hard to choose a piano.  I found the process daunting.  I have been playing for 15 years as an adult, but I am not a musician. I like playing,…

My husband’s Aunt Rose became our great Buddhist teacher. Aunt Rose was 84 when I met her. She had never married, and lived in a studio apartment in New York City. When Ken’s mother died, Ken and his children became…

What does it mean to be a hidden mother/father? We can physically hide from our children by leaving, working too many hours, through illness or taking vacations without the children, or even through death. We can hide emotionally by not…

I made an appointment to have lunch with a person I didn’t know; it was a business meeting with someone who might become a new client. I did have reason to believe that she might not show up, as she…

I recently read a piece by Scott Kalechstein <http://www.scottsongs.com/> from 2007, “The Journey of Relationship Going From Here to Maturity.”   Let’s focus on three of his “Romantic Bubbles that must be busted.” 1. I can get all my needs met…

I had lunch with a friend the other day.  Her husband had died about four months ago.  As we were talking, she made a suggestion to me, for how to approach an activity which is sometimes hard for me:  What…

We had a house guest once who did not treat our house as I wanted him to.  He crossed my personal boundaries with his behavior.  I got mad, but said nothing. Over the next few hours, I seethed and tried…